Preparing Yourself To Do Him Good

Here's one of the messages I heard this past weekend that was a huge blessing to me.

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Proverbs 31:12

"She will do him good & not evil all the days of her life."

You may not be married, but you still have opportunity to do another "him" good. We have fathers we can do good to, while preparing to do good to our future husband.

1. Make sure you are doing good to God.

Do you meditate on the Word? Pray? Ask God what you can do to make Him happy. Thank Him. What's your motive for going to church? Is it social or do you go to worship Him? Would you treat your friends the same way you treat God?

2. Make sure you are doing good to your father.

Honor your father. The Bible doesn't say to only honor your father if he is saved. Show him respect by:

• Your attitude
• How you talk about him
• Your actions - Hebrews 13:17 [Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.]
• Do you do right, even when he's not there?

If you did have or do have godly parents, thank God for them every day.

3. Make sure you are prepared for the plans God has for you. We may plan what we want out of a good, godly man, but are we the woman that a man like that would want?

Titus 2:4-5 [That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.]

• Sober - Serious minded. Don't just play through life.
• Discreet - Marked by modesty. Proverbs 11:22 [As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.]
  Modesty in our dress. Proverbs 2:11 & 12 [Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee: To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things.]
  Modesty in our conversation. Proverbs 11:13 [A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.]
• Chaste - Pure.
  Physically I Thessalonians 4:3 [For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication]
  In Our Conversation I Peter 3:2 [While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.]
• Good - I Timothy 2:10 [But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.]
  I Timothy 5:10 [Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints' feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.]
  Matthew 5:16 [Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.]
• Obedient - To anyone who has authority over you. Your father, husband, pastor, boss, & God, be obedient with respect. Hebrews 13:17 [Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.]

My weekend

This weekend, I went with several ladies from my church to a ladies retreat in Birmingham. It was given by Gloryland Baptist Church. It was so nice to be able to get away & be with other Christian women. The speakers were very good. I'm going to post several of my notes from the speakers that were huge blessings to me.

Mondays...

What is it about Mondays? You think, "OK, it's the start of a new week, a fresh start to do the things I know I should." Maybe your day even starts good. But somehow, good intentions almost always give way to getting stuck in that old rut again. Not only in the physical world, but the spiritual as well. I know that everyday is constant battle with the spirit and the flesh. I just wish it wasn't such a battle on Mondays. On Sundays, I'm at church almost all day. I get "spiritually pumped." Then, on Mondays, I try to put into use what I learned on Sunday and then splat...I've tripped and fallen. But as I am sitting here tonight, I am reading Romans 6 & 7, about the old & new man.


When I think of Paul, I think of a super-saint. Look at all that he did for the spreading of the gospel of Christ, all that he sacrificed for his love of God, obeying until the end. I think we all stand back and look at Paul with awe thinking, "I could never be as strong of a Christian as he was." Sometimes, I think Paul's little pinkie toe had more spirituality than I have in my whole body. But, as I read into chapter 6 & 7, it reminds me that Paul was human.


In chapter six, he is telling us that we were born servants of sin. We obeyed our master, serving sin. Yet, "so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death." [Rom. 6:3] With His death, we died as well, "knowing this that our old man is crucified with him, that the body of sin might be destroyed." [Rom. 6:6a] It doesn't mean that we will never sin again once we are saved, but now we are no longer servants to sin, "that henceforth we should not serve sin." [Rom. 6:6b.]


Paul goes on to say that we are not under the law anymore, but grace. "For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace." [Rom. 6:14] But he also says that the law shows us our sin. "I had not know sin, but by the law." [Rom. 7:7] We see our sins in the law, but now when we break the law, we no longer have to pay the penalty. The penalty was paid for by grace.


Now, as a servant of Jesus, we have the choice to obey Him & His commandments, or sin. He even asks us to "yield your members[body] servants to righteousness unto holiness." [Rom. 6:19] Problem is, although we are no longer the servants of sin, we still have a sin nature in us.


So, how does all this go back to reminding me that Paul was human? Well, even Paul admitted to his sin nature. "But I am carnal, sold under sin. For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that I do. If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that it is good. Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not. For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me. For I delight in the law of God after the inward man: But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members. O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death? I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin." [Rom. 7:14 - 25]


Paul, like myself and any other Christian, had a constant battle with the flesh & the inward man. God gave us the gift of choice. With that choice comes certain responsibilities. He doesn't want us to obey Him because we must and that's that. He loves us so much that He wants us to obey Him because we love Him as well. He also gave us the gift of grace. When we do sin, choosing not to obey Him, the grace of Jesus still covers us with the free unmerited love and favor of God.


I am reminded that yes, Paul sinned too. He didn't use grace as an excuse to sin. He fought the battle between his flesh & inward man. But he also reminds me that instead of looking to a man as an example, I need to look to Christ as my motivation & guide in my daily battle with the flesh. He looks at me, inside me & sees my weaknesses. Surprisingly, He still loves me for all my faults. He tells me all through His Word that, "Yes, I know you will battle with sin; even I was tempted. I will be there to pick you up, dust you off & set you back on your way, each & every time you fall, because I have such a love for you. But I give you the choice...to let me pick you up & show you in love what you did wrong, or to stay in the dusty rut, a place where I cannot be with you. It's your choice...will you let Me fight the battle with you?"


So, even when I feel high on the mountain on Sunday, & yet I sin & fall into the old rut on Monday, as long as I know I have Someone waiting to pick me back up if I would only ask Him, Monday doesn't seem so bad afterall.

I've got it!

Well, I have decided how I am going to use my blog. It's going to be sort of my devotion area. A place where I talk about my Bible studies, or what I've been learning in my daily Bible reading, or to talk about my concerns & prayers. Not that I mind people reading my blogs, or that I actually think anyone will find my little ole blog & even want to read it, but it's going to be more for myself. Like a spiritual growth chart I guess. Well, we shall see. Anyway, here is a Bible study I did tonight on Romans 6 & 7. It's just what I've read & what I feel it means to me.

Just starting out...

Well, I finally did it...I started my own blog. Never thought much of them before. But, I got to thinking, sometimes you just need a place where you can write out your thoughts or vent or just put anything thing down. So, I am going to give it a try. I may not write everyday, but hopefully, I will be faithful to it. I don't know how all this will turn out. Guess we'll just have to take it a day at a time. We shall see. For now though, good night.